One of the most difficult things to do is writing words of sympathy for someone’s loss. Finding just the right words to convey your sentiments can be difficult at times. The most important quality to keep in mind when writing condolence messages is that they are supposed to be heartfelt, sincere, and to offer comfort in cards you send with your plant gift.
SAY IT FROM THE HEART
There are several ways to communicate your sympathies for the deceased and those who are experiencing loss. Below are some sympathy card wording ideas that can affect how you convey your compassion and support.
Acknowledge their loss by telling them how you knew the deceased even if you do not know the individual you’re sending the sympathy card to. Your connection to the deceased could be through a current or former job, from college days, or an old roommate or friend. These kinds of sympathy messages for cards typically fall in the condolence messages category – a bit more formal while still extending sympathy and compassion. Describing your relationship to their loved one personalizes the message.
APPRECIATE THE DECEASED’S QUALITIES
Highly descriptive adjectives that convey valuable qualities you respected, admired, enjoyed and/or cherished about the deceased, can provide a rich connection to those receiving your card or gift. Stay away from simplistic words such as ‘good’ or even ‘great.’ Instead, try to use more qualitatively rich descriptors such as tenderhearted, highly respected, dedicated, disciplined, caring, well-loved by all, admired, unforgettable, and the like.
KEEP IT WARM, SINCERE, and BRIEF
Genuine and brief, that’s the most powerful way to show you care.
LEND A HELPING HAND
Telling the bereaved you can help them out in large or small ways can speak volumes about acknowledging their pain. Be specific with your suggestions. Help can include:
- Providing a listening ear
- Taking food
- Performing small tasks – running errands
- Contacting others on their behalf
- Keeping the home front tidy; watering plants, etc.
KEEP IN TOUCH – FOLLOW UP
Remind them intermittently that you are thinking of them. Let them know not only that you care, but also are available for help in whatever way they may need even as time has passed. Keeping in touch can be in the short or longer term, depending on how well you know the person you’re sending the message to.
While the closing may seem less significant, it contains the final words the recipient will receive. If sending sympathy gifts such as live plants or sympathy flowers, acknowledge your humble token of remembrance for the deceased here. Sentiments such as the following can be particularly warm and respectful:
- Please accept this living plant in memory of____________
- With deepest sympathy and compassion, we share the remembrance of him/her
- My/Our heartfelt sympathy is extended in this flowering plant
- In loving memory of____________
- With love and prayers extended through these flowers at this sad time
- In deepest sympathy for you loss.
While bereavement gifts may not always express the depth of your compassion, they can reflect an additional heartfelt sentiment. For sympathy gift ideas, check out our green and flowering plants here: